You may have noticed that I haven’t been posting as much as I used to over the past year in a half. There have been many personal things going on that have made my blog take a back seat lately. First off was my car accident in March 2015. It not only severely damaged my neck, but I also had PTSD because of it. I am hoping to write about that soon, since I think I finally have a handle on that. Unfortunately, because of the damage done to my neck, it hurts to sit at the computer for too long. So I don’t write as much as I used to, plus living with PTSD was not easy.
There have also been other struggles. In 2014 my husband had left his job of 14 years because the high stress was just too much. We had prayed about the situation and felt it was the right thing to do. He was like a completely new person once he left and I know he made the right decision. Unfortunately, it was a very high paying job and we had just bought an expensive brand new home. We lived off our savings while he took real estate classes and then he became a realtor. Being a realtor can be very rewarding, but that brings along it’s own stress. A realtor only gets paid after a closing, so it’s solely a commission based job. The real estate market is never a steady thing, it’s constantly up and down which was the reason my husband decided to take another job right before my accident. Sadly after his first week on the job, I was in my accident and he immediately had to leave me and start traveling for his job. He was gone weeks at a time and it was too much for all of us. I have a little bit of short term memory loss because of my accident and between that and the pain from my neck, taking care of our 3 kids by myself was just too much for me. So after about a month, my husband decided it was better to go back to being a realtor. We only have one car and because of my PTSD, it made driving too difficult for me to do. So my husband is the one who takes our sons to and from school. Being a realtor gives him a lot of flexibility which is so great for us. Unfortunately, not having a steady paycheck is really hard and the fact that we have to pay for our insurance is another difficulty. Which brings me to our next big challenge.
My husband was born premature and as a result, he has shallow hip joints. This causes him to have daily pain since his hip bones are grinding together when he moves. For the last 15 years he was told that he needed a hip replacement, but we have been trying to hold off as long as possible since he’s so young and hip replacements do not last forever. Over the last couple of years, his hips have been getting worse, but over the past few months they have gone down hill fast. Now we are at the point where there is no other option except a hip replacement. So tomorrow he has his surgery consultation and depending on how that goes, we are hoping to have his surgery at the end of March during spring break.
We also found out that the shoulder surgery he had done two years ago was not successful and he needs another shoulder surgery again. I am also going to be having another neck surgery soon as well. Between all of these surgeries, our cost is almost overwhelming. Especially at the moment since the real estate market is really slow right now. The summer was great and we had put a lot of money into savings to prepare for winter, but then we had a lot of car problems and the renters of the house we were renting out stopped paying their rent. So we were paying double mortgages for several months. Our savings quickly dwindled, but my husband had a couple of closings set up for the end of November and beginning of December and the commission from those would get us through the rest of the winter months. Sadly, those fell through. So now we have no money coming in, negative in our bank account, we don’t have any credit cards, and now we have these surgeries looming before us with no way to pay for them. We tried to put the house we rent out up for sale, but turns out that the complex is not FHA approved at the moment which is what 99% of the buyers for that market need…they need an FHA loan. So now that house will most likely go into a short sale since we haven’t been able to pay mortgage on either of our houses for a few months. We might need to put up the house we live in for sale and then move into an apartment and basically start all over. As you can imagine, the stress is getting to be a lot for us. So as a last resort, we have set up a Go Fund Me Page to try and get some of the money we need for the surgeries as well as just some money to help us continue to survive until we have money coming in again. We have truly felt blessed with all the prayers, donations, and love we have received from friends and family so far. If you are wanting to help out by donating, we could desperately use any help. If you can’t donate, feel free to share our Go Fund Me page on Facebook. Also, if you know of anyone looking to buy or sell a home in Utah, please send them to my husband’s website, Making It Easy Real Estate.
Thank you for reading my sob story. It has taken me all month to get the nerve up to write this. It’s been a rough couple of years, but it has definitely taught us to look at all our blessings and find the silver lining in everything. Some days get tough, but for the most part we are optimistic and know that one day we will be in the place to pay it forward. We look forward to that day! Until then, we are just feeling blessed that we have 3 beautiful children who are healthy and grateful to have such great friends and family. I apologize that I haven’t been blogging as much and hope that you will stick with me while I go through this difficult journey. I plan to eventually get back to blogging a lot more, but for now I’m just trying to focus on my family and our health. Thank you to all those who continue to follow me, I’m so grateful to all of you.